Many parenting books are based on hit-or-miss theories steeped in secular thinking. This one draws from Pastor Tripp's seasoned experience as a father-and from God's Holy Word. Grounded in the Bible's divine plan for parenting, this guide defines your goals as a parent and provides the Scriptural methods for accomplishing them.
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I've read a lot of parenting books but none like this one. I felt both conviction and hope. Tedd Tripp helped me to see my role as a parent in a whole new light. My children and I are so blessed to have found this book!
17 years ago, we had the privilege of having Tedd and his wife, Margy, visiting us at a time when we hit a brick wall in handling our first child. They taught us how to "discipline in love". We read the book and practiced it; good results followed immediately. My son is 18. We couldn't be happier. He is a happy young man with lovely character and excellent moral discernment. Now, I am a young adult pastor. I highly recommend this book to all parents.
This book has changed my life and challenged my way of thinking. The book has showed me deeper truths about the heart of children - how to best guide and relate to them. The book has a lot of wisdom about the use of biblical authority. It points out that discipline is for the sake of correction, not punishment. And how we as authority figures are not to focus merely on correcting bad behavior, but on engaging the child's heart for their spiritual well-being. After all, the goal is not raising well behaved children but Christ-seeking disciples. Tripp shares how confronting sin and encountering grace will transform the heart of our children.
I will be straightforward and say the book does advocate corporeal punishment (spankings). But Mr Tripp does so in a very biblical framework. Proverbs repeatedly mentions using "the rod" - and let's not forget, parents did not use timeouts/ groundings in ages past, so the idea should not shock us; rather, this is a new shift in thinking that reflects our modern way of thinking. But Tripp is very wise in the boundaries he advocates surrounding such measures: never doing it in wrath, never losing control, communicating love, and reconciling with the child after the act (not giving them the cold treatment).
I would highly recommend this book to anyone. Even if you don't agree with corporeal punishment, this is not the focus of the book, so there is plenty of wisdom to be gleaned from it relevant to all parents. I cannot say enough good things about it!
Some scary directives hidden behind good intention
Date:January 31, 2013
The man thinks it is suitable to use corporal punishment (spanking, hand slapping, etc) against 8 month old babies. I understand the desire to train children to obey and to discipline them based on their heart issues. Tripp makes that clear at the beginning, and I appreciate that. However, could you imagine Jesus using corporal punishment against a child? Ever?
As parents we are to model to our children God's desire to be in relationship with us. This relationship is based on love and respect, not fear of punishment, but trust in his love because he first loved us and PUNISHED himself for our sake.
Discipline means teaching, guiding, leading. The verses in proverbs that are so often used to show that we ought to hit our children could be better translated. Please take time to research meanings for the Hebrew words translated "rod" (staff used to protect the sheep from wolves) and "child" (actually the word used probably means young man).
Don't just take Tripp's word for it.
While Tripp does a great job of laying out his intentions of training up children to love the Lord, and to discipline them by getting to the heart of the issues at hand in the child's life.... I encourage you to research the validity of HOW Tripp says we MUST discipline, as if he speaks for God himself that spanking and insisting on immediate obedience is the only way. God does not deal with us how Tripp says we must deal with our small children (and BABIES).
Still can't get over his description of how to discipline (hit) a disobedient 8 month old (in the first edition of this book). I don't think an 8 month old is able to disobey!
Put simply, this book had affected my approach to child training and Biblical discipline more than any other book I’ve ever read on the subject. The Biblical truths and approaches are timeless and foundational to any family at any point of the growth process. The surprise is that I learned more about pastoring a church from these pages as well. You can take the same approach of dealing with the heart concerning shepherding a congregation. I have purchased a dozen of these books and have made them available through the church library. If we had the resources we would have purchased a copy for every family. I wish I had read this book when it came out and my children were babies I cannot recommend this book highly enough.
I am thankful for this book and how God has changed my heart through it. It has become a permanent reference guide for our family. It is scripturally sound and the GOSPEL is clearly the foundation on which this book has been written. There are many parenting books full of opinion and "modern techniques" -I believe this book has been written out of biblical truth and because of this, it stands out from the rest. I hope that many read it and benefit from the wisdom that it holds. If not for the clear direction in parenting, but the well being of our children.
Supurb book on the proper way to discipline. There are some negative reviews about the book, but those reviewers seem to have passed over the idea that discipline always involves love. I also have spanked my 8 month old, training her not to pull my moustache, and after only 3 sessions she understood, and has never pulled it again. Of course, they were very gentle spankings (and always on the back of the hand), but hard enough to get her to cry and understand that she did something wrong. As my children grow, the spankings get harder, and move to the backside. None of my 7 children run around in fear of my spanking them, and they know that I love them.
It's important to realize that when a child feels loved by the parent, even overdoing the spanking will be forgiven. I think many reviewers only saw the emphasis on spanking, and overlooked the emphasis on love.
I have read this book 3 times on my own and now I am using it for a ladies Bible study. It is not only applicable for the parent, but for the grandparent and any person working with youth. Tedd Tripp brings the process of raising children back to basics...a matter of the heart. I highly recommend this book.
As the mother of 10 living children and 2 in heaven I have to say that I have found the counsel of this book to be unwise. There are many who would say 'take the meat and leave the bones'. That is not Biblical. The Word of God tells us that the leaven of false teaching leavens the whole lump. While some pages contained sound advice for particular circumstances, the whole of the book contained an overall attitude of ruling children by fear of punishment. I was deeply saddened by the advice in the earlier versions of the book to take a baby's diaper off to spank his bare bottom. That is cruelty in the extreme. The idea that spanking is the only form of discipline that brings a child back into a right relationship with God and family is just plain wrong. That's like saying that God uses the same form of discipline for all His children. If that were true I suppose we'd all be swallowed by a great fish when we disobeyed as was Jonah. :-) The author condemns parents for using other methods such as 'time outs'. There are definitely times when we all benefit from a time of being still and reflecting on the wrong we have done. Once we come to the realization of our wrong led by the convicting power of Holy Spirit, we are free to repent and call out to God for forgiveness. Then we are forgiven by God's grace. We get to skip the 'being swallowed by a great fish' incident. :-) All joking aside, I feel that this book contains so many errors that its good points are overshadowed. Parents, especially young and inexperienced parents, should skip this book.
I was desperate to know more on how to relate with my kids especially when it comes to discipline without ruining the relationship i have with them. After reading the reviews from others on this page, i decided to go for it and i do not regret it one bit. I have ordered four more for friends in church.
It was from a lady that I greatly respect that I first heard of this book,and was very excited to read it for myself.But from the very first chapter it was clear that the Lord in His goodness had directed me to the wise instruction that can be found in it's pages.I found confidence,hope and an encouragement that has deepened my faith.My three young sons and I are thankful to Christianbook.com for providing such great material!
I recently purchased this book and it is like having a personal reference/friend that I go to when I have parenting questions. We have a 2 1/2 year old and an 11 months old. When I bought this book, my husband and I needed guidance on how to implement effective discipline in a loving manner, and this book gave us exactly that and more. I wish that we bought this book before our 2 1/2 year old turned one because this would have helped us prevent some discipline issues. One very important thing I learned from this book is to consciously guide/shepherd my children instead of waiting to correct them when they make mistakes. This book also affirms that my husband and I are on the right track in our parenting style. Thank you for writing this book. Excellent work!
After reading this book I knew I had to share it with as many young parents that would listen. I taught a class to the ladies of our Church. I bought the VCR tapes and each lady bought the book and workbook, we meet weekly sharing our thoughts and discussing topics such as spanking, fighting, whinning, etc.... I think Tedd Tripp hit the nail on the head with this book. I always said if I were to write a book it would be titled "You parent for their future." Its not about us as parents it is about raising kids to Glorify God in all they do.