Robert D. Jones is the assistant professor of biblical counseling at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. He is the author of the Resources for Changing Lives booklets Forgiveness, Angry at God? and Bad Memories, and has written numerous articles and book reviews for the Journal of Biblical Counseling.
His most recent book, Pursuing Peace; a Christian Guide to Handling our Conflicts offers practical techniques for biblical reconciliation all the while helping others to do the same.
My seminary degree is actually in pastoral ministry, so my classes revolved around counseling, shepherding and performing funerals. While everyone else was learning how to write a sermon, I was learning how to craft a eulogy. Now that I am a pastor in the field I can tell you first hand how important a book like this is. Much of ministry is about dealing with people face to face and only a small portion of it revolves around giving the Sunday message.
My mentor told me once that “people are people.” I use that phrase in just about all aspects of ministry, and so if you are a person who works close with people – chances are you are going to experience conflict. Our first reaction is probably to avoid conflict or push it off onto someone else. It’s something that scares us because it’s an aspect we are never prepared for.
Robert Jones’ book is the perfect tool to help navigate those issues in a way that is organized and well supported. Believe it or not, there is a biblical way to deal with conflict and most often we don’t follow it too closely.
Spoiler alert: a big part of it has to do with “love.”
In chapter six, the author offers up a review of what it means to apologize, and I would argue that this is worth the entire value of the book right here. When was the last time you were taught how to say you’re sorry? So often apologizing is a write off that we throw out to the hurting as a cheap way to get out of real sympathy or authentic remorse.
I think a book like this is needed in the world that seems to be slowly moving away from human interaction.
I would reccomed this for anyone who is in a leadership position either in the secular world or in the ministry.
Thank you to Crossway for providing this review copy and the opportunity to share my thoughts.