gain new insight on how to deal with people that absolutely drive you crazy in life. There are some ways you can handle situations in your life and this author has wonderful insight to give the reader.
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Review 2 for People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys - eBook
Mike Bechtle in his new book, “People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys” published by Revell gives us the ability to deal with difficult people.
From the back cover: You don’t have to be controlled by difficult people!
Strange as it may seem, other people are not nearly as committed to our happiness as we are. In fact, sometimes it seems like they’re on a mission to make us miserable! There’s always that one person. The one who hijacks our emotions. The one who seems to thrive on drama. If we could just “fix” that person, everything would be better. But we can’t fix other people. We can only make choices about ourselves.
In this cut-to-the-chase book, communication expert Mike Bechtle shows you how to stop being a victim of other people’s craziness. With commonsense wisdom and proactive advice that you can put into practice immediately, Bechtle gives you a proven strategy to handle crazy people–and stay sane while doing it.
There will always be difficult people. But this fresh perspective on dealing with them can change your life–starting today!
We are not allowed to commit murder so what are we to do when people are trying to drive us crazy? Mike Bechtle has given us to tools we need to deal with these situations in his new book, ”People Can’t Drive You Crazy If You Don’t Give Them the Keys” Eighteen chapters that are divided into five groups: Stuck In A Crazy World, Changing Someone Else, Changing Yourself, Changing Your Environment and Putting It Into Practice. With chapters like, Seven Keys To Unlocking Healthy Relationships and Your Relationship Survival Kit Mr. Bechtle not only gives us topics he gives us examples, lots of examples that we can put into practice – almost immediately. This is a great book. You might want to hold it in a special place on your shelf you might be referring to it again and again. This is also a great book to give as gifts to family and friends. They will think of you every time they put it to use. I recommend it highly.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Revell. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
“Available October 2011 at your favorite bookseller from Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group.”
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Review 3 for People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys - eBook
The holidays are around the corner and we all know what that means... Oh yes...Dealing with family members and friends around the table,that leaves us feeling consumed more with indigestion than the turkey did.
Maybe it's the co-worker in the cubicle with you with the strong perfume and that laugh that feels like nails across the blackboard?
Whichever is the case, one thing tends to be true...they are driving you crazy.
In his book,"People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them The Keys", readers are treated, with often humorous remarks on dealing with the "crazy" people and situations in their lives.
There were times, i caught myself laughing and nodding with agreement, as Mike Bechtle, shared insightful observations and tips in dealing with this thing called, social interactions and the craziness, we often find ourselves dealing with on a daily basis.
With references to Proverbs, the book,"People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them The Keys", is a layman, "I get where you're coming from, book that doesn't talk down and also really connects the reader with common sense approaches to dealing both effectively and in a healthy way with life situations.
In the chapter, "Don't Sweat the Wrong Stuff", the author shared this small tidbit about negative people ( and don't we seem to know one or spot them a mile away), "People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them The Keys"A lot of people get upset at everything that happens around them. They're on a lifelong quest to see the negative in everything,and they appoint themselves the caretaker of everyone else's behavior. That perspective keeps then steeped in drama. ( "People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them The Keys", page 112).
It's like people have made acting like Eeyore, a career choice, but this is where ,"People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them The Keys",steps in and offers very helpful, down to earth, rational approaches to dealing with those people, driving you crazy.
Reality is no one is perfect and stressful situations, trying times, enclosed spaces and the holidays seem to bring out the worse and just plain, crazy in people, and ,"People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them The Keys" , really offered real life, rational solutions to both handling and drawing boundaries where it is needed in our lives.
The book is written by someone who authentically came across that there is no denying people can and will be difficult.
This is a well thought out book that helps bring about a different perspective on how to deal with those craziness in a a realistic and manageable way.
What this book isn't about, is a book about abusive situations which is on a whole level by itself and should be reported,of course, to proper authorities at all times and should never be attempted to be dealt with alone.
This is a book for the relative who takes advantage, the irritating co-worker who is driving you crazy with the same old stories, the mother in law who keeps dropping by at the worse time without calling or maybe Uncle Joe who has a sob story everytime he needs something...whatever is the case,In his book,"People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them The Keys", Mike Bechtle, helps bring a perspective in how not to let people get under our skin as much as we may let them.
This is a book about gaining control how we react to other people and discovering the power in changing our perspective to how others are reacting or dealing with us.
Maybe you can eventually have that drama free holiday or day at work you are hoping for or maybe ,"People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them The Keys" can help you get back the keys, that is needed using a cutting to the chase, common sense, proven strategies in not only handling but in staying sane.
***Thank you to Revell for the opportunity to read and review this book***
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Review 4 for People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys - eBook
People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys By Mike Bechtle
I just love the title of this book,which is the reason when I was given the opportunity to review it I jumped at the chance. I mean after all who doesn't have at least one crazy person in their life trying to take you for a long out of the way drive? Mike Bechtle gives you the means to put a break on this drive to crazy.
We all have other people in our life - family, friends, co-workers, neighbors and for some reason or another some of this people manage to make us feel a little crazy. But is it the fault of these people or does the fault lie with us?
Often we allow our perceptions to be based on emotions and feelings and not the truth that is before us. The only way we can have truly healthy relationships with those in our lives is to have truth be our foundation not emotion. Emotions vary and fluctuate, but truth never changes and is a constant. We need to have integrity in all of our contacts with others so that they can have trust in us and not question the motives behind our actions. When we have integrity we don't need to remember the truth because it is part of us, lying takes more effort and we will need an excellent memory.
We cannot base our joy on what goes on around us, but it must come from within. When we have joy we are able to see the truth in situations. Yes, we will still have problems, but we are able to look at the situation objectively and not with our glasses of negativity firmly in place.
We are not responsible for the grown-up crazy people in our life. We can try to be an influence of change, but they have to make the change themselves. We can set boundaries about what we will do and speak about with them so that they don't bring us into emotional turmoil and make us feel like a victim. We need to be prepared so that when we start to take the crazy drive we can stop it before we head-out.
Change takes time, but there are no guarantees. We can only control ourselves, and we have the tool we need - the Bible. We can find the truth that will set us free of the crazy people in our life by going to the Word of God - His principles and truths are there for us to learn from.
The Bible is all about relationships. Relationships between parents and children, husband and wife, neighbors, enemies, friends, family, and between us and God. The Bible is not a list can't and don't do's. God gave us the truth so that we might see it and use it in our everyday life.
Turn the crazy person in your life (even if it is you) over to God. God never gives up on anyone, so how can we? God loves you and He loves me and He is always at work to influence and to change us, but He doesn't force us. He leaves the choice up to us.
Even if you don't feel that you have crazy people in your life, I believe everyone would benefit from reading People Can't Drive You Crazy If You don't Give Them the Keys. There is a wealth of information on how to have a healthy relationship with everyone in your life.
I received a copy of this title for the purpose of this review from the publisher. No requirements were made and all opinions expressed are my own.
Available October 2012 at your favorite bookseller from Revell, a division of Baker Publishing Group.
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Review 5 for People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys - eBook
What a practical book on dealing with people whose behaviors disturb your life! Although there are people whose behaviors are out of the norm and they tend to drive you crazy, Dr. Bechtle recognizes that the problem isn’t 100% the other person. You have choices to make in the process of dealing with them. Sometimes, (gasp), we are even part of the problem.
His chapter on How Relationships Work is an excellent groundwork piece to help you recognize healthy and unhealthy relationships and how to handle them, whether they are family, friends, co-workers, etc. And no, you can’t fire our family!
The biggest portion of the book relates to changing yourself. The author emphasizes that your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and behaviors need work on. I really appreciate his chapter on Seven Keys to Unlocking Healthy Relationships. This is, to me, the meat of the book. You can’t buy the ‘ingredients’ listed, but by following the Word of God, they can become part of your life (many are the fruit of the Spirit).
When you get to the chapter on You Can’t Steer a Parked Car, hopefully you’ll have the empathy to try to understand why a particular person irritates you so much. I, personally, do not believe most people try to make your life miserable. Some have had difficult childhoods that make them struggle harder than you.
I do have a difficult time with the author calling these people in your life ‘crazy people,’ because it’s shaming. As I mentioned earlier, some have had difficult childhoods and survived the best way they knew. But I do agree that it’s not your job to ‘fix’ them. He is quick to remind us that you can’t change anyone but yourself, but you can impact others by influencing them. Sometimes it works, other times it doesn’t. Nothing is guaranteed. Pray for them, befriend them if you can, and leave the changing up to God.
This book was provided free by Donna Hausler of Baker Publishing Group (Revell) in exchange for my honest review. No monetary compensation was received.